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Besides what women really want during intimacy, women are actually complicated in nature concerning their needs. It’s not an easy task trying to understand what women truly like.
The truth is that the male and female species are totally different, but while we are naturally choosy, picky, and sometimes very selective, most women at one point or the other when in a relationship with a man or in any situation in life do not actually know what they really want in their lives- Yes, we get confused too concerning our needs!
A couple in a romantic mood
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It is one department the male still find it difficult to conquer as they also get confused sometimes and flare up when women needs change so rapidly like the weather conditions.
It is perceived that women are like flowers which come out very bright and shinning in the morning hours but get squeezed and roughened in the evening. While they want it cold now, the next minute they are clamouring for it to be hot.
When it comes to the issue of sex, traditionally it is believed that the male folks like to initiate, control and dominate the entire process with the women being at the receiving end of either a good or terrible sex.
In our today’s world, the idea of initiating sex by the male folks is an old tradition that have been long discarded and put in the trash can forever, this is because modern women have taken the bull by its horn and they now go for what they want, when they want it and how they want it done- mild, soft or rough.
Furthermore, the truth be told that today’s women are into sex a lot more than the male folks could even imagine or realize. And they don’t just want polite sex or demure sex but rough in whatever way they feel it is satisfying because her sexual appetite is just as intriguing as she is.
Simple women with simple lives are a lot rarer than they used to be, so men would be wise to take this as a heads-up. Chances are you’re with a woman who has at least a fleeting interest, if not a full-blown desire to partake in a little rough intercourse.
Thus, some men actually get surprised when sometimes caught off balance when their women tell them they want rough, messy or wild.
The honest truth is that, while the men think of the women to be calm, wear floral print dresses, take care of the kids and home or do the cooking, they fail to realize that these women also have their dark, wild and raunchy side when it comes to sex just as men are.
Point is, even though they don’t just look it, a very high percentage of women also like it very rough in bed.
These are 9 rough things women secretly want in bed:
A man who is trying to understand intercourse from the perspective of a woman must come to terms and know the following points in making her feel satisfied just as she wants it delivered to her.
1. Grab her hair, pull backwards and spank her
For some women, the hair is their erogenous zone, therefore pulling them backwards is very erotic for them but make sure it’s not the side hair.
This is a total deviation of the traditional missionary style most women are used to where intimacy is soft and one way traffic. It may be funny to you but women actually like their hair pulled backwards and also they like to be thrown around.
When you pull your woman’s hair, especially the area at the back near the neck it sends shivers down their spine, hence when having sex, it adds to the sensation and pleasure.
Get their faces smashed into the bed. Some more than others, but they all like it. It’s like you have to re-learn to have intercourse.
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While doing it not to cause pain, a pull in the right spot can turn some women from being tired or grumpy into a raging intercourse kitten.
2. Consume her mouth with a hard, passionate and messy kissing
This is not the time for that French soft kiss but for the type that makes you breathless and panting for oxygen. Having her whole mouth in yours is a total weakness and huge turn on for her.
As we all may know, the art of kissing is a very important department during sex between lovers and partners. And during rough intercourse, you both can’t escape it because it’s an important side attraction and ingredient to propel, keep the mood and tempo in the right temperature.
In so doing, make it messy and extremely passionate and hard with a feeling of how you had wanted it from her. Feel each other’s tongue and bite her lips a little longer but a bit harder.
Remember to run the entire neck, ears and whole body hungrily and like a child needing attention. Above all, make it a memorable act for her to remember later.
3. Be very vocal and talk dirty
If you want your girl to get going in excitement and ecstasy, then you must practice and know the art of being very vocal and talk all those dirty phrases that only end up in the bedroom.
It doesn’t matter if your girl isn’t a dirty talker, but telling her how hot or beautiful she looks gets her craving for more of you. Dirty talking has been proved to be very effective during rough sex because it increases the tensions between you two.
Even if they are words that ordinarily you wouldn’t utter but common this is rough intercourse and she is in the right mood for it, so it’s permissible.
An example of talking dirty to your partner may include the following:
“Guess what colour of panties I am wearing?”.
“We need to meet after work; this horniness is killing me.”
“I want to make you orgasm so badly tonight”.
“I need to feel you inside of me
4. Hard and fast thrusting
Thrusting very hard, fast and combining it with the points mentioned above puts her in a crazy mood to want you for her.
Good intercourse is all about timing mixed the different angle variations. Sometimes with a lot of hip grinding and angle variation, sometimes just lock in on a good spot and work it very well.
Let her feel your erection against her back while you also touch your girl’s front (fondling breasts, masturbating me, stroking skin). It’s always arousing making her know you want to touch her wherever you want in the heat of passion, but she can’t touch you in reply.
Most ladies have seemed to like it hard and intense especially after being warmed up and for some it causes more clitoral stimulation.
5. Lock/gaze directly into each other’s eyes
Locking your gaze with your partner creates some form of romantic affection and bond between the two of you. For some people it shows how connected they are with their partner and they love to know that their partner feel same way with them.
Lots of eye contact during the intercourse is way erotic and so hot. It makes everything feel so much more passionate, and that is a massive turn-on.
6. Don’t be afraid to get a little kinky
Monotonous acts get people bored all the time, so also during sex. Therefore, adding some sparks to spice it up would just be right for you and your partner. Possibilities are that, adventurous and happy couples are those who introduce new things regularly into their lives including in the bedroom.
You can do this by having a total overhaul of your sex lives and doing those things that could really get you excited. Kinky ideas may include:
Try having intercourse in the rooftops or public places like restaurant, park or a dark corner in the club etc.
Flash in public
In the words of a lady, “I like freaky, rough intercourse, but all but one of the guys I’ve ever slept with have stuck to plain, vanilla intercourse. I want a man to spank my ass, lick my inner thigh, tie my hands together, and whisper something dirty in my ear while we have intercourse. This Article should help you with Kinky ideas.”
7. Be creative and very adventurous with More hot intimate positions
Having a variety of movement or motion like having your hands or tongue running all over her body is great. Being adventurous and creative in bed with your partner is a lot of turn on.
As I wrote earlier, throw away the traditional missionary style that had been passed from generations to generations and get involved in new ones.
Get spontaneous too, be weird, bring out your creativity and be very adventurous in trying new styles whether known or never seen before. She will thank you later.
8. Dominate her entirely and don’t ask what she wants or how she wants- it’s boring
This is one of the biggest turn on for women because women have a genetic need to be dominated by men especially during intercourse. Most girls are too shy to admit that they prefer that based on indoctrination, but most girls like it rough and love to be dominated.
The fantasies of submission are ultimately fantasies of being really sexually desirable.
Never ask how she wants it done or what she wants in bed. It may sound very unattractive to your woman because most women want to know how capable you are in the bed and ready to be submissive.
Women’s fantasies of submission are fantasies of extreme arousal in sexual partners. This is why desire for dominance wouldn’t transfer into daily life– because it’s a sexual desire.
It will be boring to her asking her what she wants or how she wants it done. Take what you want from her and dominate her from start to finish.
See it as an act of dominance and you would be shocked and surprised seeing her giving herself to you. You know what? She loves it when you dominate her in bed.
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You just need to take baby steps and constantly read her body language to make sure she’s comfortable, both physically and emotionally.
If you’re going to play around with domination, it’s never a good idea to start off with anything that might hurt her feelings or humiliate her, i.e., barking orders at her (“Go down on me NOW!”) or name-calling (“Slut!”). Playing around with restraints — loose restraints, of course — is definitely a better way to go.
9. Don’t make it too long
Most sexual encounters, from the time of penetration to orgasm, last from one to 10 minutes. While it shouldn’t be too short, making it very long will make it boring and tiring which will lead to inflicting injuries in the woman’s lady part. I will say something like not less than 7 minutes and not more than 15 minutes should just be perfect of it.
Also, for intercourse therapists 7 to 13 minutes is the sweet spot. Penn State researchers surveyed 50 American and Canadian intercourse therapists in 2010 about what timing the experts thought was best.
The therapists said that three to seven minutes was “adequate” and seven to 13 was “desirable.” They said one to two minutes was likely too short for most people, but that 10 to 30 minutes was probably too long.
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